Back in March, when we went into lockdown we were in shock, everything changed in the blink of an eye and left the human race, including the experts, reeling.
Six months on we are still grieving.
We grieve at the loss of anything significant in our lives,
the break up of a relationship,
children leaving home,
being made redundant…
and a way of life!
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s framework, the 5 Stages of Grief, since used to represent any significant change…such as a pandemic, for instance, demonstrates this perfectly.
These steps defined by psychiatrist Kubler-Ross
don’t always follow this exact order.
It is quite possible to go through all five in a single day or you may be stuck in one stage for months.
We are all different.
You may have come to terms with the day to day stuff,
But our mental and emotional energy has taken a battering.
Our sympathetic nervous systems (the fight or flight one) have been overworked.
And we have been starved of the human interaction we need to as a species.
According to Dr Aisha Ahmad, it is common to hit a wall six months into any crisis, but rather than banging our head against it, if we just keep it down and keep going things will start to look and feel better, more manageable at least, in the next 4-6 weeks.
With shorter colder days on the horizon and the thought of a “winter of discontent” ahead many are struggling to stay positive right now, so what can we do in the meantime.
As we move into winter we naturally want to hibernate more anyway.
Use this as a time to sleep lots, eat well and get outside in the fresh air as much as possible.
If you live in the city be sure to plan social distanced reset days where you get to take in and connect with the beauty and simplicity of nature.
Even if the closest you can get to nature is growing some plants on your window sill, it helps put the miracle of life into perspective.
Focus on your breath – 4 in, 4 out slowly through the nostrils is ideal
Meditate or just be mindful of your surroundings
Journal or practise gratitude.
Limit your social media and news time.
Think of your mind as you would your body – don’t fill it with junk.
Limit time spent with toxic people.
Look for the positives and opportunities.
Focus on what you can do, rather than what you can’t.
Give yourself little things to look forward to.
Start each day with a winning morning routine,
Take a few minutes for yourself at least,
Breath, give thanks that you get another day on planet earth (you are one of the lucky ones)
Set some intentions for the day before you dive in.
Keep as much routine in your days and weeks as you can.
Have fixed times to exercise, walk the dog, eat, sleep and relax!
Not very spontaneous I know,
but the structure and routine help us have a little certainty and make us feel safer in uncertain times!
we are all going through our own versions of COVID, no-one is getting away scot-free, so share your concerns and your worries.
Reach out to others who may be struggling too.
You don’t have to have the answers.
People usually don’t want or expect you to have the answers, they just want the space to release their fears and worries, and it works both ways.
We can get through this together!
Kim Raine is a Life Coach and Health Mentor who is fanatical about helping women free themselves from the BS that is holding them back so they can sort their crap out once and for all. Kim empowers women to reduce anxiety, beat burnout, manage stress, lose weight, sleep better and live happier, healthier lives.